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February 04 2018




















I work at a daycare with infants.

One of our baby girls is fat, in the 99th percentile for her age. She is super cute and sweet. Lately, she has been sick with various breathing issues, so she has been reluctant to take her bottles. Normally, she’ll take 4 ounces of formula at lunch and 8 ounces in the afternoon. Today, I was lucky to get to her take 5 all day.

There was a substitute covering a lunch break in my classroom today. We emphasized to her that we need to keep trying to get the baby to drink her bottle until she finished it. She said, “Why are you guys so worried about taking her bottle?”

My coworker replied, “That’s where all her nutrients are. She needs the nutrients and the water.”

To which the substitute replied, “But she’s so fat. She doesn’t need it.”

Thin privilege is a small, pretty baby getting better childcare because the caretaker doesn’t think she’s too fat to be allowed to eat.

This reminds me of a cousin of mine who ended up with her kids being taken away from her by social services for a number of reasons but mostly for nearly killing her baby daughter. How?

By starving her. She insisted that her baby was ‘too fat’ and had an aim to remove any and all ‘chubbyness’ so her baby would be thin. She’d already been warned by her doctor about the baby not getting enough food, but insisted she knew best.

After several months of this her baby passed out cold one day and was rushed into hospital where the doctors found her to have severe malnutrition, a low body temperature and low pulse rate. They asked my cousin what she’d been feeding her daughter and she said “one bottle of skimmed milk a day. I don’t want her growing up fat.”

Even after nearly killing her daughter my cousin maintained her view that fat = bad and ended up with all her kids taken from her because she was starving them and neglecting them.

When your fatphobia leads you to starving your own children then you’ve got serious problems.

(Note. She still, to this day, maintains the view that she was right and the doctors were wrong. “They just want fat kids so they can keep employed treating them for all those diseases that being fat causes.” = her actual words.)

My mom had me dieting with her when I was eleven. She had me eating less than 600 calories a day because she was worried I was going to “get huge.” She even grounded me once because she found out my friends were bringing me lunches! I ended up passing out, going to the ER, and getting two IVs at once BC I was so goddamn dehydrated. Soooooo surprised they didn’t call child services… And looking back, this was the root of my anorexia. I’m nearly 22 and still fighting it. Please don’t starve your fucking children.

For fucks sake babies are SUPPOSED to be fat, what is wrong with people? It’s just stored energy, and growing children need stored energy - an 11 year old is just about to hit some major growing years. Damn. 




and it kills

This is no joke. people will literally starve their own babies cause they don’t want them getting fat. A parent brought in their six month old baby who was having breathing issues and kept getting sick. the parent was asked if the baby was eating regularly and the parent straight up told the doctor that they only feed the baby once a day. ONCE A DAY. A FUCKING BABY. they even had the nerve to say because they didn’t want the baby to get fat. people like this are real. they would rather have a dead baby than a fat one.

My youngest son is a very big boy and has been since he was born. When he was 10 months old I took him for his well-baby check and vaccinations. The nurse noted his weight and said, quite casually, “He is in the 99th percentile for weight so he is at risk for obesity. You may want to keep an eye on that.” I said, “He is exclusively breastfed. He refuses to eat any solids yet.” What did she expect me to do? What would it mean to “keep an eye on” an exclusively breastfed baby’s weight? 

She backed off saying, ‘Well he looks fine!” – proving once again that weight bias is not truly about health – But I know many other parents who are not as informed as I am about weight science and size diversity would react to this interaction by policing their child’s food intake, if not as an infant, then when he was an older child. This is exactly the type of seemingly-inconsequential interaction that starts the ball rolling on a lifetime of dieting, disordered eating, negative body image, and weight-based abuse for too many fat people.

Years later when he was five, another doctor measured his weight and height and commented that he is off the charts on both, but “at least he is in proportion.” And if he was not “in proportion,” I am sure I would have been advised once again to “watch his weight.” 

I no longer allow healthcare providers to weight my children unless it is absolutely medically necessary. They are unable to control their weight talk, which is a known harm for children.

We need to completely eliminate weight talk from medicine, especially when it comes to children. Even the smallest exposure can have terrible consequences.


A friend from college had been going to the doctor because she was having trouble breathing. She was told to lose weight. Over the course of several years, she went back to the doctors time and time again, telling them that she’d been sticking to the diet but because of her breathing problems she had been unable to even walk for more than 20 minutes at a time. The doctor got her into an exercise programme and told her that she just needed to really try to lose weight because that was clearly the reason for her breathing problems. By the time they found the tumour on her lungs, it was inoperable. She only lived three months after diagnosis. She was 25. She’d had the tumour for over five years. The doctor was so focused on the fact that my friend was “fat”, that they refused to look for any underlying cause. They killed her.

Weight-first treatment KILLS. Fatphobia KILLS.

I have 2 scary stories to share about fatphobic doctors & parents harming their childs/patients’ health:

1. The 4 years old daughter of a friend of mine came to our house to spend the weekend. She gave me a letter from her mom that said that the child was in a glutenfree diet because she was getting ‘awfully fat’ when eating cookies or bread (my celiac ass; who gets dhiarrea and loses a scary amount of weight whenever I eat something with gluten was like ’???’).

You can bet that I went to the supermarket with the kid and told her ‘go & take whatever you feel like eating’ and the poor child came back smiling with her arms full of biscuits and cupcakes.

She didn’t got sick (as a celiac would get) and told me later that she hated the diet her mother made her follow; because her cousins didn’t had to pass through that.

And what’s the scariest thing about this story? Her mother was a NURSE. A fucking nurse who didn’t have a clue of the harm that she was doing to her daughter’s body!

2. My little sister started to feel fatigued and dizzy at 9 years old. She felt nauseated at the sight of food and had abdominal pain that increased with physical activity.

Mom got her to the ER and the doctor dismissed it saying: ‘she’s fat and probably is feeling ill after eating too much burgers, get her to make some exercise and she will be better in no time’.My mom didn’t felt ok with the diagnosis and took my sister with a second doctor who also told her that ‘the child was just fat’.

My sister’s skin was starting to get yellow as the days passed and the abdominal pain was getting awful so my mom (heaven bless her!) got her to the ER for the third time:


She survived after a long and painful recovery who involved being in bed for a whole year (remember that we’re speaking of a 9 years old child). Luckily they saved her liver and she didn’t went through a transplant… but let this sink:

If it weren’t for my mother, fatphobia would have killed her. Fatphobia kills kids and teenagers, fatphobia kills inocent people everyday. It treats human beings as lesser than others and hurts them in their most vulnerable times.

It’s a real shame that we all have so much stories to share about this issue. A REAL SHAME.

Future doctors, interns, and residents following me:


Don’t let bias against your fat patients kill them!

(#and this is just when we actually go to the doctor and tell them we have problems #how many of us just give up #or won’t mention anything that seems like too much of a ‘fat’ problem)

i’d really like my thin followers to reblog this if you can. fat people are already here for each other, we need you guys to help us out too. this is something i never see anyone actually talking about in-depth, and it’s disappointing. be there for your fat siblings, too.

I want to add some positivity to this post if y'all don’t mind.

I have always been really lucky with doctors. The doctor I had for the majority of my childhood that I remember never once pressured me to lose weight. If I went in with a something that could be link to my weight they might mention it, but the doctor never looked at the fact that I was overweight and mentioned it. I once went in and was diagnosed with heartburn (how I missed the signs and needed to see a doctor is beyond me xD) and after going through everything, she looked at me and said “losing weight has been known to decrease heartburn, but medication can do the same. It’s your choice what treatment path you take.

When I moved as an adult and got a new doctor, the second time I went to see him, I asked him about my blood work he ordered and that I was concerned about my health in relation to my weight and he asked me why. His words, as I remember them, were “Yes, you should strive for a more active lifestyle that you can manage, but from your blood work, it looks like you eat a fairly balanced diet. Clearly you eat either more calories, but your blood work is healthy, and that’s what I am concern about.”

Lastly, I have a psychiatrist who is amazing. We have spoken on my weight in regards to my mental health and I jokingly asked him if he was going to tell me to work out more like one of my other psychiatrist and he sat forward, and said (again, in the way I remember them) “why? I might tell you to go outside and go for a walk, because being outside and a simple walk is good for you and something you can manage. I am not in the field of deciding if you need to work out and neither are they.”

Fatphobia is a real thing, but you don’t have to be stuck with doctors like that. I am lucky and found most of these doctors on my first try and they always put my health first. The first two have recommended weight loss as a way for me to be happy but both said, ultimately, my blood work showed me to be fairly healthy (no high blood pressure or high blood sugar, no risk for diabetes).

Can someone give us some good advance on how to tell if one is too thin/fat to be unhealthy? Like if it’s not about weight or the body look (of course I know it’s not entirely true, like BMI is not THAT relavent to healthy/unhealthy but) then what should be the correct sign of being healthy or not regarding your body’s need being too much/less?

The truth is, there is no one way to be healthy. You can literally be a marathon runner and drop dead of a heart attack. Happens regularly.

If YOUR health matters TO YOU, then do some experimenting and figure out how YOUR body works best. What makes YOU feel good in YOUR body? Do some research on and then talk to your doctor about something called “metabolic health” – basically the idea that if your heart rate, blood pressure, A1C, cholesterol, and other “numbers” are good, then you’re “metabolically healthy”. But remember that people who have “good” numbers can have other health problems, too, and you can have some “bad” numbers and still be pretty healthy. Do some research on “Health at every size”, too. Consider the idea of “health” in the context of chronic illness, mental illness, and disability, too. Are you “healthy” if you have chronic migraines, depression, or scoliosis, but still do well by other measures? How about asthma? Or diabetes, in fact?

There are lots of ways to be healthy or unhealthy. It’s not a straightforward thing, or a single thing.

And it sure as shit doesn’t show from the outside. You absolutely cannot look at another human being and know that they are healthy or unhealthy.

Nor is the health of any other human being in the entire world your business unless they invite you to make it their business. Yes, even your family members. (The exception is your own minor children. Adults who have become unable to take care of themselves and for whose health you are responsible have, presumably, asked you or authorized you to make their health your business.)

Do not assume that there is ANY weight that is “too thin” or “too fat” to be healthy. Find a weight that works for you, both in that you can maintain it without doing things that will negatively impact your metabolic health (like dieting or overexercising, neither of which is good for you and neither of which works to keep your weight down long term, and both of which can actually CAUSE WEIGHT GAIN long term, which leads to yo-yo dieting or weight cycling, which is very bad for your metabolic health long term) OR your mental and emotional health (by, say, causing you lots of anxiety), AND that feels healthy. Because when your body works the best it can for you, you can feel that.

And, again, don’t fucking worry about anybody’s body but yours. Don’t listen to people who try to make your health their business without your invitation, and don’t listen to people who tell you that your body ought to conform to some standard they have in their heads.

And finally, you have no responsibility or duty to anyone to be healthy, and you are not worth more or less as a human being based on your health. You are not bad if you are unhealthy or good if you are healthy. You’re a person, and that’s enough.

TLDR: Health is not one thing. There are many dimensions to and kinds of health. You can be healthy at whatever size you are (and that’s good, because there’s not a lot you can do to change your size in the long term, at least not to get smaller). Don’t worry about anybody’s health but your own. You are not bad if you aren’t healthy.

February 03 2018

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The end is nigh. (via darthlisterfiend)

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Did the guy in the blue shirt just throw the guy with the black shirt off a bridge for respecting women???

No, the guy in the black shirt willingly jumped off the bridge to go get the love letter, because he respect women that much.

when you drink yo respect women juice

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We were robbed of Winona Ryder’s potential as Amanda Grayson.

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Woman Sets Up Bird Feeder Photo Booth to Capture Close-Ups of Feathered Friends

The Best Post

of COURSE the mourning dove just sits on the food

#they’re so fat and stupid #i love them

Me, too! Mourning doves are some of my fav birds to work with ^.^







Btw I’m terrified and we are all gonna die and if I hear one more person say “our species destroyed the environment” I’m gonna lose it harder than I already am which is, for the record, Very Hard Indeed

Our SPECIES didn’t destroy the environment it was like 3 guys

Like it was more than 3 guys but in the grand scheme of things when you step back and really look at it it was like 0.00000000000000000001% of humans and that’s actually a much larger number than reality in reality it was like one 1000th of a guy. But like. For the purposes of envisioning every human alive today vs. people responsible for this. It was like 3 guys.

Saying humans destroyed the environment is only very slightly more accurate than saying mammals destroyed the environment

The “our species destroyed the environment” club is the same club that only ever talks about this as something that is tragic because of all the beauty destroyed, all the cute animals that go extinct, etc. 

Never mind the billions of humans whose lives it endangers. 

They don’t register on their notion of how tragic the destroyed environment is because they ‘deserve it’ for ‘destroying the environment’.

The concept of collective guilt serves to 

  • get the guilty of the hook 
  • justify not putting any effort in saving people from the deadly consequences of climate change 

  This is EXACTLY the point made in this article on why we shouldn’t call the new era the Anthropocene (climate caused by man) but instead the Capitalocene (climate caused by drive for wealth/capital)

I’m going to read more into this

What Markel Can’t Ask For


“Most people don’t even realize that autistic kids are loving, valuable members of society. Without parents to see the contribution kids like Markel make in our world, who will?”

Does anyone else think about the fact that Scanlan returned to Whitestone to warn his family about the ziggurat in Marquet and eight days later he’d helped seal a god and one of his best friends was dead? Because I do, a lot, and gods, does it suck.




I want a story about a king whose son is prophesied to kill him so the king is like “whatever what am I supposed to do, kill my own kid wtf is wrong with you” so he just raises him as normal, doesn’t even tell him about the prophecy, and instead of some convoluted twist of events that leads to the king’s murder the son grows up and when the king is very old and dying and in excruciating pain the kid is just like alright I'mma put him out of his misery.

The king’s son becomes the new king, and is prophesied to defeat evil and bring an age of prosperity. His generals and knights all crack their knuckles but he pretty much ignores them and focuses on strengthening the infrastructure of his kingdom. Forty years later he is old and sick but still hearing his subjects’ grievances, and a general’s like “how will you defeat the prophesied evil now? You’re old and weak.” Another visitor, a teenager fresh out of the kingdom’s public education system, looks at the general like he is an ignoramus. The king eradicated poverty, housed the homeless, taught the ignorant, ended class exploitation by abolishing the nobility and imprisoning the corrupt, and established a highly respected guild of doctors that recently figured out how to cure the plague. There are no brigands because there is enough wealth for everyone to live comfortably; hiding in the woods and taking trinkets from people simply doesn’t make any sense for anyone but the desperate, and the people are not desperate. Evil is a weed, explains the teenager. It grows in cracked roads and crumbling houses and forgotten corners, rooted in indifference and watered by suffering. But the king demands that broken things be mended and suffering people be made well.

No evil lives in this kingdom, says the teenager. It starved to death before I was born.

Every once in a while, when I’m feeling down, I go and look at the notes on this post and they make me feel a lot better. This is the energy I want to carry into 2018.

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Black people are likely serving life sentences for that same crime IN PORTLAND.

A system built to destroy black lives continues to flourish.

If your legalization activism ignores this reality, your legalization activism is self-serving bullshit.

Today, San Francisco took the burden off of people convicted of marijuana crimes to ask to have their records expunged, and put it onto the courts to actively go through expunging those records. In the statement, they cited the research that showed while all groups of people used and committed marijuana “crimes” equally, Black and Hispanic people were overwhelmingly targeted and sentenced much harsher than white people. San Francisco also has not a single active marijuana case in the system right now.

Other cities in California are moving to perform the same action. Let’s hope and pressure every other part of the country that’s already legalized to do the same, and work towards getting the nation on the same page.

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If you look closely at the spelling, you’ll notice a peculiar thing about this word with 16 letters. It does not repeat any letter, each character is used only once. This word is known as an isogram in the field of logology (or “recreational linguistics”). The longest isogram is actually subermatoglyphics, at 17 characters.

But, since subermatoglyphics, related to the study of fingerprints, lines, and hand shapes, is a bit scientific and certainly not one that is used often, we’re spotlighting uncopyrightables instead, because it’s one we can all remember. It means, of course, “items that are unable to be copyrighted,” such as catch phrases or recipes. (source)

February 02 2018

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